MUST READ ~ Lifting From Others the Burden of Your Own Death

 

This excerpt from this "must read" International New York Times article reminds me of how things played out after Mom died & wishing it had been the same with Mim's passing.   

Although death planning can be emotionally vexing, it is essential for families and survivors. They may not know your true intentions without written directives. By the time the will is read or estate plan executed, it will be too late.

Yet death planning will not only allow you to plan a dignified, meaningful and even splashy exit, but will provide guidance for those attending to your last moments and beyond.

When my mother died in 2009, she had left explicit written directions. She didn’t want a religious service and chose cremation. Her ashes were to be spread in the warm waters of the Gulf of Mexico off the Southwest Florida coast. A party in a country club celebrated her life with family and friends. It was sad, but intimately reflected her intelligence, love, thoughtfulness and joie de vivre in planning parties and holidays.

Which will you be like - Mom, who shared her wishes, or Mim, who left us wondering what she'd like?