Some weeks back, a situation with my family doc brought home how seriously disconnected my body language, facial expression & tone are from the words I'm speaking. I'd been sharing vital information with him for half a year & it never registered. When he went back over his notes, there it was, clear as day. But it had never registered in his conscious because of the way I said it.
The lack of concern in my body language, tone & facial expression literally negated what I thought was being shared.
My experience with it goes way back. Two incidents in college are perfect examples of the same problem - in both cases, no one reached out help me when I was about to faint or when I was injured with a dislocated elbow.
My body language, tone & facial expression were completely out of whack with my calls for help.
The Aug 1-3 Omega workshop ~ GET TO KNOW THE REAL YOU What Your Brain Chemistry, Personality & Body Say About You ~ seems pitch perfect for my problem. "What does your speech say about you? How about your face? Your movements?" Sounds at least like a start!
Years & years ago, I read an article about a therapist who video taped her clients interacting with others. The results were apparently always dramatic, always a great surprise to the subject to see how he or she came across, how what was intended to be shared was being lost in translation. As soon as I read it - before I was married, so well over 25 years ago - I longed to have the experience of seeing my own impact.
Something like 7% of our words account for what it processed by others as communication. The rest is conveyed by body language, by tone, by facial expression.
Fingers crossed that the workshop's exercises, discussions & guided self-reflection will help me "delve into all aspects of (my) life and connect with who (I) really am, inside & out."
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